As an entrepreneur, it is much too easy to try to do “all the things”. You may find yourself chained to your computer, forgetting to play, feeling tired, or even feeling edgy around your loved ones instead of enjoying your time with them.
You may find that in trying to do it all, you forget about YOU
And that has to change my friends.
It’s high time we talk about self-love and the importance of giving yourself what you need and more.
For some of you, this idea of putting yourself first can feel wrong and confusing.
Especially for women. Think of all the TV shows where the moms are serving meals and it’s a joke how they don’t get to sit down and enjoy it. Eating a warm meal only if everyone else has theirs.
It’s often our first instinct to put everyone else first. It’s ingrained in us to take care of others and think of ourselves only if there’s time leftover.
But there’s no such thing as “leftover” time.
To make sure you have your best health, your best mental state, that you are living your best life, YOU need to make sure you treat yourself with the same love and compassion that you so willingly show others.
You would easily give love to someone else, be kind, and make sure they are fed nourishing foods… so why would you be any different? You aren’t!
The more you put your needs first, the more energy/time/love you have to spill out to your family and friends.
It’s like the oxygen masks on the airplanes where they remind you to put on your mask first. If you’re out of oxygen you won’t be able to help anyone else. You’re advised to make sure your body has what it needs so that you can help out elsewhere.
I not only encourage you to be in a loving and romantic relationship with yourself, but I’m also sharing 12 resources to support you with this mindset shift and self-nourishing behavior.
Because you my friend, are worth it!
Here are 12 simple ways to bring in the self-love:
1. Have me in your ear, encouraging you.
This is a pep talk I recorded for you for any time you are feeling down. Play it over and over when you need a pick me up and someone to remind you how great you are (because you are!).
Cleansing your energy is just as important as protecting it. In fact, cleansing it first helps you seal only good energy in before you put on your energetic boundaries.
I’ve recorded free meditations to clear each of the 7 chakras. Try it anytime your energy feels stuck, in the morning to set up your day with a clean slate, or any time you can fit this in – your energy will thank you!
While the infrared sauna (or other methods) may help your physical detox, mental detoxing is just as important.
Meditation and *gasp* a break from social media and the news… can do wonders.
What if you add just 15 minutes of quiet to your day? No screen time, no noise unless it’s relaxing music. A true brain break.
Try it and see!
8. Rose scent to add self-love into your life:
The scent of rose is said to be uplifting and bring about feelings of comfort and love.
You can bring these feelings of love into your life by diffusing rose-scented oil, adding rose essential oils to your bath, buying roses, planting a rose bush, and even using rose water in your daily routine. See it on Amazon
Bringing rose scents into your life can also support your heart chakra. It just smells of self-love.
9. Place rose quartz near you.
If you don’t want to diffuse rose oil or buy roses, having heart-shaped rose quartz can also bring in those feelings of love.
You can get a small one to carry with you or a larger stone to keep at your desk or by your bedside.
I’ve even known people to sleep with crystals under their bed and what better way to sleep than by feeling loved.
Here are some options from Amazon and you can also support small businesses by purchasing rose quartz on Etsy.
Movement is such an easy way to add self-love to your life.
Our bodies need to move it, move it! It keeps us from getting stiff, supports flexibility as we age, stimulates the mind, decreases stress… well you know that we NEED to move.
Make it a priority every day by trying:
Yoga Classes, either in-person or online.
Cranking up the music and dancing (extra points if you sing into a pretend microphone).
Walking outside, preferably around some trees but anything will help you move.
Stretching in between tasks is also a way to add some movement and get your energy flowing.
Bottom line, get that stuck energy moving while supporting your physical body!
11. Stop being a broke healer.
I say this with love because I was a broke healer and I know firsthand how it feels.
But I found my way out of it and have helped countless others do the same.
12. Connect to other gentle, “light” minded people on the “woo spectrum” with M&A.
I would be remiss if I didn’t add personal connection to this list.
The Mastery & Ascension membership is there to not only give you access to all my meditations and self-support tools but also to connect you to other “light” minded people to whom you can bring your “woo” highs and lows too without judgment.
It’s a space where all members are learning and growing and I’m so proud of what a supportive environment it has become.
If you’d like to explore the membership, you can find more information here:
If you want to feel even more empowered in bringing the self-love, I have the book for you – Pussy: A Reclamation.
This book can be life-changing and life-affirming. It not only takes you back through history, through patriarchy, but also into really loving yourself, loving your body, loving your pleasure, and ultimately feeling totally empowered.
Because as women we are not taught to love ourselves and instead we often do the opposite… look for flaws.
I highly recommend it to you. Get it from the library, online, or anywhere you can get your hands on it.
* I am not sponsored by any company, and there were no paid product placements. However, some of the links here in this description may be Amazon affiliate links, meaning I may be compensated if you purchase them.
As you may have heard, I’ve been sharing some pretty raw stories of how insecure and fearful I used to be in my business. (Watch it in my 2-Part video series over on Facebook)
That quote above is from me, it’s something I learned after a major mindset shift happened for me after what was easily the worst time (financially) in my business.
I had basically NO CONFIDENCE…
I couldn’t contribute financially to my family…
My fears were blocking me from creating any sort of strategy to get out of my vicious negative spiral…
And the best thing I could do was pray for a miracle.
Honestly, that miracle came in June of 2016 when I met James Wedmore.
Back then I was majorly stuck in my feelings of inadequacy. I lacked the confidence I *thought* I needed in order to succeed in my business.
Turns out, it wasn’t confidence I needed, it was to release my limiting beliefs of how I *thought* a profitable business ran…
And simply put, if there’s one thing I can share about James is he’s changed my life.
In short, following what James has taught helped me shift out of employee mindset and fully step into the role of a CEO in my business like never before. I went from making barely $13k per YEAR to 10X’ing my income and creating a profitable 6-figure online empire!
What James has taught me time and time again, is that “what got you here won’t get you there.” I knew deep down that things had to change, but I didn’t know HOW.
I had the pleasure of sitting down with James, who’s now a dear friend in addition to being my mentor, to discuss simple mindset hacks that can seriously help you shift out of employee mindset and into thinking more like a CEO.
All my love,
P.S. EXTRA CREDIT!!! If you’re anything like me, you’re also a little obsessed with personality type quizzes…another gift James has given is THIS FREE Entrepreneur Assessment inside his “Bizflix Video Series Portal” to uncover what type of entrepreneur you’re being right now!
Also, once you take this quiz, COMMENT BELOW and let me know what you got…I seriously love this stuff so much!
It doesn’t matter how old you are or how “spiritual” you are, we all get that inner voice that says the worst stuff to us!
This voice is better known as our EGO…although, I sometimes call it the “asshole in our head”, funny but true, right!?
Having suffered with depression on and off during my early 20’s and into my 30’s, I know this all too well. As soon as I’d have an idea for how to build up my business, stand up for myself in an unhealthy relationship, or simply just take better care of myself, that voice would sweep in and sabotage me every single time.
I’ve had clients who are just starting their meditation practice, and that dang a$$#ole comes right back!
SO, HOW DO I STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF-TALK???
I’m glad you asked!
The short answer is ignore it and keep practicing meditation anyway. Sometime’s I actually find myself saying “NO THANK YOU” out loud or changing my physical environment to shift the energy and to stop the mind chatter!
The ego has a job to do, which is to keep you small and safe. (Think helpless puppy, aww!)
This is great most of the time, but if you’re really looking to grow emotionally, spiritually, or financially, your ego will come up to sabotage you.
Please remember this is NORMAL and it’s to be expected.
Now that you know what it is, you can prepare yourself ahead of time.
Start to recognize that all the “negative self-talk” are simply stories your ego is feeding you so that you quit growing. Take it as a sign that you’re ready to expand and you can make the CHOICE to not listen to your ego’s commentary or demands.
You always have a choice.
If you’re ready to take your solo practice and amplify it with the energy of working with me and an incredible community, I welcome you to join Mastery & Ascension!
This monthly membership gives you a unique (and affordable) opportunity to work closely with me every single month with zero risk! Join for a month and leave if you’re not into it! No risk!
Something I get asked all the time is in regards to feeling light-headed, dizzy, or just spacey either going into meditation, while meditating, or coming out.
I have a very simple answer for WHY this is happening and a SIMPLE SOLUTION to help you out of that wonky head space!
WHY THIS HAPPENS: Typically the main reason why you’re getting a bit light-headed is because you’re beginning to tap into a higher vibration of energy (go you!). The higher you go, the less you’re energetically in your body. Don’t get freaked out, it’s nothing to be scared of.
Accessing higher frequencies is something that many people never get to experience. It means you’ve relaxed enough and allowed your energy system to expand. THIS is also where we allow deep levels of healing into our mind, body, and spirit! (go you again!)
When you’re meditating using one of my guided meditations from Mastery & Ascension, you’ll be opening up to a high frequency because they’re all channeled directly from source in addition, I’m adding energy healing, something you’ll ONLY FIND working with me!
SIMPLE SOLUTION: Simply put, come out of your meditation sloooowly and ground yourself. If you’re being guided, and it’s going to fast, just hit pause, and go at your own pace. Take some nice long breaths and come back into your physical body but engaging muscles. Once you’re fully back, eyes open, have some water and go outside. Walking barefoot can really help you ground.
If you’re ready to join our growing community inside MASTERY & ASCENSION, simply CLICK HERE!We have daily conversations about meditation AND how we can use it specifically as a tool to grow our business.
This is INTENTIONAL MEDITATION, not just deep breathing to achieve the elusive “blank screen”!
I hope these tips helped, if you have more questions about how to meditate or you’re feeling like you’re doing it wrong, COMMENT BELOW, and let me know how I can help!
I don’t typically write on a Saturday, but I honestly couldn’t wait to share this life-changing energy with you!
I just came back fromSedona where I spent 4 amazing days with the current members of The Phoenix Mentorship. This retreat was designed to be a close to our time together, but it ended up as an OPENING to something much bigger…
On the plane home, I did some automatic writing and what came out were these 10 lessons…
They were intended for the retreat group, but I really feel like theres a message for us ALL and these short messages could really help change your life (and your business!)…
Now, these 10 lessons are a great start, but if you’re ready to go deeper and experience the pure energy of this Phoenix Mentorship group, I’m hosting a FREE Mastermind Call on Thursday, March 29th at 8:00PM EST. REGISTER INSTANTLY HERE!
10 Lessons From A Sedona Retreat:
1. SIT BACK, RELAX, AND ENJOY THE RIDE: “Passive mode” taught that we don’t have to be the star of the show all the time and by stepping back slightly, it allows others to shine and share their gifts.
2. PRIDE IN THE PACK: When looking around and seeing such individually amazing women who were looking to have a bigger impact and help others. The level of consciousness was undeniable.
3. WAVE YOUR FREAK FLAG: No fear or hesitation in speaking your truth. Considered “woo” of “different” we all add something to the collective energy and healing. The collective mindset is to heal and receive healing – each day multiple healing sessions were happening. It was glorious!
4. STRENGTH IN TEARS: Releasing and letting go of who we were and stepping into who we’re becoming. Recognizing the beauty and growth in others. Gratitude tears are real. Letting go of perfection and allowing for miracles – the reading by Steph and rap with Helena.
5.TEAM OF ANGELS: Pure alignment and trust helped the overall success of the event and the group. Adding in Steph and Lindsay were variables at the beginning but it always felt good! It wasn’t clear “why” until we were together. Trusting my gut has proved beyond helpful.
6. OPEN & HONEST: Being allowed and encouraged to speak our mind and not get shut down. The group is open-hearted, loving and deeply connected to being of service to each other for their growth and development.
7. VULNERABILITY: It’s what connects us. It’s what binds us. The power of story, experience, stupid choices, wrong turns, feelings of inadequacy actually bring us closer in spite of how fearful we are about being judged for these “flaws”.
8. ALWAYS THE TEACHER AND THE STUDENT: A leader doesn’t have to always be leading. In following and being open to feedback is also a lesson for me, but it’s a lesson for my tribe as well. Releasing the expectation of what I’m “supposed to” be.
9. WE’RE OBSESSED WITH BEING OF SERVICE: We don’t hold back our abilities. Being generous with explaining what we do or why we do it is second nature. It’s actually harder to NOT give to others – healing, coaching, advice, support, love, cheerleading, and a shoulder to cry on when needed. We’re generous givers and ask for nothing (or little) in return.
10. TOGETHER WE RISE FROM THE ASHES: Rising tides lifts all boats. We believe in the energy of the collective and any time one is “out” we stop, drop and put out a hand. We’re generous with sharing guidance and what works, but we will never allow you to be a victim. We take 100% responsibility for ourselves, our choices, and our work. The only one to blame or celebrate is us. It’s not easy blazing trails and when we fall we get up and soar.
“If you leave your growth to randomness you’ll always live in the land of mediocrity.” Brandon Bouchard
If you’re reading this you’re NOT mediocre and you’re destined for so much more…It’s YOUR time to rise from the ashes and be supported in ways you’ve only dreamed of!
For the first time ever, I’m giving you the chance to see what working with me and my FREE Mastermind Call on Thursday, March 29th at 8:00PM EST. REGISTER INSTANTLY HERE!
WHAT THIS MASTERMIND CALL IS:
✵ A safe space to get help with your business through hot seats with ME and the group collective
✵ Loving channeled psychic guidance for your business
✵ Learn how it feels to be part of a mastermind for free
✵ See behind the scenes and participate as part of a tribe and community of high-vibe entrepreneurs
Bonus: Each registrant who SHOWS UP LIVE will receive a $1000 waiver towards their Phoenix Mentorship Application Fee.
Have the best weekend EVER!!!
Love and light,
P.S. If you have any questions about this Mastermind Call or The Phoenix Mentorship, simply HIT REPLY! I’d love to chat.
P.P.S. Applications for The Phoenix Mentorship currently OPEN, but space is limited. Only 5 SPOTS are available! Applications close April 17th.