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As an entrepreneur, it is much too easy to try to do “all the things”. You may find yourself chained to your computer, forgetting to play, feeling tired, or even feeling edgy around your loved ones instead of enjoying your time with them.
You may find that in trying to do it all, you forget about YOU
And that has to change my friends.
It’s high time we talk about self-love and the importance of giving yourself what you need and more.
For some of you, this idea of putting yourself first can feel wrong and confusing.
Especially for women. Think of all the TV shows where the moms are serving meals and it’s a joke how they don’t get to sit down and enjoy it. Eating a warm meal only if everyone else has theirs.
It’s often our first instinct to put everyone else first. It’s ingrained in us to take care of others and think of ourselves only if there’s time leftover.
But there’s no such thing as “leftover” time.
To make sure you have your best health, your best mental state, that you are living your best life, YOU need to make sure you treat yourself with the same love and compassion that you so willingly show others.
You would easily give love to someone else, be kind, and make sure they are fed nourishing foods… so why would you be any different? You aren’t!
The more you put your needs first, the more energy/time/love you have to spill out to your family and friends.
It’s like the oxygen masks on the airplanes where they remind you to put on your mask first. If you’re out of oxygen you won’t be able to help anyone else. You’re advised to make sure your body has what it needs so that you can help out elsewhere.
I not only encourage you to be in a loving and romantic relationship with yourself, but I’m also sharing 12 resources to support you with this mindset shift and self-nourishing behavior.
Because you my friend, are worth it!
Here are 12 simple ways to bring in the self-love:
1. Have me in your ear, encouraging you.
This is a pep talk I recorded for you for any time you are feeling down. Play it over and over when you need a pick me up and someone to remind you how great you are (because you are!).
2. Energy protection.
Energy protection is the biggest form of self-love! It’s saying “I’m not going to feel drained by emotions and energy that doesn’t belong to me!”
Here is a great meditation to learn more about energetic cords and how to cut them:
Listen Here: Is Cord Cutting Total BS?
3. Energy protection at work.
Protecting your personal energy anywhere you are is important. But we all know work, even as a solo entrepreneur, can be draining.
If you are connecting with people in person, over the phone, online… your energy is interacting (energy doesn’t know time or space).
Here is a great podcast episode about how to protect your energy at work:
4. Cleanse your energy regularly.
Cleansing your energy is just as important as protecting it. In fact, cleansing it first helps you seal only good energy in before you put on your energetic boundaries.
I’ve recorded free meditations to clear each of the 7 chakras. Try it anytime your energy feels stuck, in the morning to set up your day with a clean slate, or any time you can fit this in – your energy will thank you!
Find the meditations here: 7 FREE Meditations to Clear, Repair, and Align Your Chakras
Note: If you’re an annual or seasonal member of Mastery & Ascension, you will find a full chakra clearing meditation in your account.
5. Nourish your physical body.
There is no shortage of ways to give your body nourishment and no “one-size-fits-all” approach to it.
I will say that I have found that if I start my morning in the healthiest way possible, it carries out to the rest of my day.
One of the ways I personally do that is with Organifi. It’s a green drink and I take it each morning and it helps me choose healthier foods throughout the day.
I’ve also discovered that when I feel down, I’m more drawn to the foods that are not as good for me.
It’s helpful to think about how you can use your intuition and chakra colors to support your food choices.
I talk about it in this podcast:
Find Organifi Here
6. Detoxing Your Body.
There are many ways to detox, but sauna therapy is one of my favorites because it feels relaxing and “spa-like”.
Infrared Saunas have been rising in popularity the past few years because of their ability to support detoxification and cell renewal through the type of heat waves they omit.
The infrared sauna’s claim to fame is the immunity support, potential weight loss by stimulating your metabolism, and the relaxation factor.
You can go to a physical location, buy one for your home, and they also have portable ones if space is an issue.
I’m loving this one because it’s portable and you can use it anywhere:
See it on Amazon
7. Mental detox.
While the infrared sauna (or other methods) may help your physical detox, mental detoxing is just as important.
Meditation and *gasp* a break from social media and the news… can do wonders.
What if you add just 15 minutes of quiet to your day? No screen time, no noise unless it’s relaxing music. A true brain break.
Try it and see!
8. Rose scent to add self-love into your life:
The scent of rose is said to be uplifting and bring about feelings of comfort and love.
You can bring these feelings of love into your life by diffusing rose-scented oil, adding rose essential oils to your bath, buying roses, planting a rose bush, and even using rose water in your daily routine. See it on Amazon
Bringing rose scents into your life can also support your heart chakra. It just smells of self-love.
9. Place rose quartz near you.
If you don’t want to diffuse rose oil or buy roses, having heart-shaped rose quartz can also bring in those feelings of love.
You can get a small one to carry with you or a larger stone to keep at your desk or by your bedside.
I’ve even known people to sleep with crystals under their bed and what better way to sleep than by feeling loved.
Movement is such an easy way to add self-love to your life.
Our bodies need to move it, move it! It keeps us from getting stiff, supports flexibility as we age, stimulates the mind, decreases stress… well you know that we NEED to move.
Make it a priority every day by trying:
- Yoga Classes, either in-person or online.
- Cranking up the music and dancing (extra points if you sing into a pretend microphone).
- Walking outside, preferably around some trees but anything will help you move.
- Stretching in between tasks is also a way to add some movement and get your energy flowing.
Bottom line, get that stuck energy moving while supporting your physical body!
11. Stop being a broke healer.
I say this with love because I was a broke healer and I know firsthand how it feels.
But I found my way out of it and have helped countless others do the same.
In this podcast episode, I share how to do it and give you a “stop being a broke healer” challenge.
This is self-love. To say you are worth more and deserve more is serious self-love.
Listen Here: Bust Through Being a Broke Energy Healer Challenge
12. Connect to other gentle, “light” minded people on the “woo spectrum” with M&A.
I would be remiss if I didn’t add personal connection to this list.
The Mastery & Ascension membership is there to not only give you access to all my meditations and self-support tools but also to connect you to other “light” minded people to whom you can bring your “woo” highs and lows too without judgment.
It’s a space where all members are learning and growing and I’m so proud of what a supportive environment it has become.
If you’d like to explore the membership, you can find more information here:
If you want to feel even more empowered in bringing the self-love, I have the book for you – Pussy: A Reclamation.
This book can be life-changing and life-affirming. It not only takes you back through history, through patriarchy, but also into really loving yourself, loving your body, loving your pleasure, and ultimately feeling totally empowered.
Because as women we are not taught to love ourselves and instead we often do the opposite… look for flaws.
I highly recommend it to you. Get it from the library, online, or anywhere you can get your hands on it.
See it on Amazon
This list is by no means exhaustive. What feels good to you? A walk in nature? A nap in the middle of the day? Your favorite chocolate?
Pamper yourself, not just on occasion but develop that way of being.
Listening to your favorite podcast, calling a friend, taking an Epsom salt bath, it doesn’t have to be elaborate.
Put yourself first so you can shine your light… inspiring others to shine theirs too.
Are you feeling inspired to put yourself first? Try committing to at least one act of self-love today and share it with me on IG @EmilyAarons. I’d love to hear from you.