Internet Trolls & Healing Your Fear of Judgement!
The purpose of this blog is to simply point out how when you’re in ALIGNMENT with your life’s purpose and passions, the judgment of others doesn’t even matter.
It’s MY purpose is to shine my light so that others can shine theirs too. Simply put: I help you so you can help others!
In order to help others, I have to be massively VISIBLE.
Being massively visible means I attract some occasional unwanted attention!
TRIGGER WARNING: I invite YOU to consider your own fears of visibility, being judged for who you are, fears of being an imposter, or being the “weirdo” in the room…
A PERSONAL TRUE STORY: Just last week, a troll on the internet went out of their way to rip me a new one. Here’s what happened and how I handled it…and how YOU can face your fears of judgment too!
Here’s some of what they said:
“You’re not psychic”
“You’re full of shit”
“You give horrible advice”
“What you is unethical”
“All you care about are followers”
“You should quit your job to be at home with your children”
“Your work is bullshit”
“You only care about putting yourself first”
So, maybe you’re wondering why on earth would someone say such things?…
Truth be told…If this conversation happened when I was newly visible online and still a bit insecure in my work, these would have BROKEN ME into a puddle, I would have strongly considered quitting, I would have definitely lost sleep over it…
HOWEVER, when I heard those words last week I felt…N O T H I N G.
In the conversation, I didn’t get defensive.
I didn’t react.
I didn’t get angry.
I didn’t throw insults back…
I listened and occasionally said “that’s really interesting feedback, tell me more about that” or “well this certainly says a lot about you”…
(Feel free to borrow those if you need to!)
But here’s WHY I felt nothing…
It’s because NONE of those words are true AND I’ve healed those old wounds of needing to be liked by everyone!
The TRUTH is that the work I do is helping thousands of people and there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t see that karma return in POSITIVE ways.
It’s kind of like someone making fun of me for being too tall…I’m 5’2″ so that’s just silly nonsense…same reaction with this.
So here’s the part I didn’t tell you…
That “troll on the internet” who said all of those things was actually a close family member. We were simply chatting about plans for Thanksgiving when he unloaded…
What I said to him was that while I appreciate his honest feedback that he clearly had been holding back for years.
I’m in a place in my life where I have zero tolerance for people in my life who don’t love, honor and appreciate me for ME.
I realize to some people reading this you may have a judgment about me or him, but consider this…
The reason why HE said all of those things means nothing about me and EVERYTHING ABOUT HIM.
Did he say it to hurt me? No.
But as we know, hurt people hurt people…he’s clearly hurting in some way, and that’s HIS work to do.
I forgive him and release him from my life right now. Maybe one day that will change but for now, I’m not available.
And for all you scrollers…the moral of my story is…
When you align yourself to your true calling and life purpose, and stay TRUE to your divine alignment, IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS!!
And always remember what Michelle Obama said: “When they go low, we go high.”
If you’re getting the side-eye from any friends, family, or co-workers please trust, they are NOT your people.
“True belonging doesn’t require that we change who we are, it requires that we BE who we are.” ~Brene Brown
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