A Business Born Out of Life’s Greatest Challenges With Abbe Feder

A Business Born Out of Life’s Greatest Challenges With Abbe Feder

A Business Born Out of Life’s Greatest Challenges

With Abbe Feder

Abbe Feder is an entrepreneur and an expert in the field of infertility. Going through this experience was her greatest challenge and yet, it birthed a business where she feels she is helping so many women and living her purpose.

I wanted to bring her on the podcast for two reasons. One, because so many of us know someone who is struggling with fertility, or you may have gone through this yourself, and it’s helpful to know what to say to others and that support is out there.

And two, it’s such a great example of our challenges and frustrations turning out to be what we can most help others with!

Everything you’ve struggled with may be just the thing you’re meant to teach. I hope you feel inspired by Abbe’s story and her ability to share it so vulnerably. When one person shares it inspired others to do the same!

Highlights you won’t want to miss:
  • [3.52] With an entrepreneurial spirit from an early age, Abbe shares her journey.
  • [4.52] Her struggle with infertility and not believing this was her story.
  • [7.57] How to support your friends struggling with fertility.
  • [15.15] The fears during her pregnancy once it finally happened.
  • [16.20] This is where her “woo” came in to help with the difficult decisions.
  • [18.51] From her podcast, her business was born because people needed information and help.
  • [22.27] “I know without a doubt I went through this to help other people”.
  • [25.00] If you’re facing insurmountable odds, if you’re stuck, these stories can help you know that you can get through it.
  • [33.30] Why it’s so important for us to tell these stories.

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Hey, listeners. Welcome back to the podcast. As you know, I have reduced my number of episodes, but what that also means that the people I bring you as guests are unbelievable. And so I am here today with Abbe Feder and I met her, I guess we met on Instagram. That was the first way we felt we connected. Abbe is an entrepreneur and she is a specialist and expert in the field of fertility. And what’s really cool how we also connect is she has her own Oracle deck as well, which is gorgeous. And so I wanted to bring her on for a couple of reasons. Number one, because my audience, you guys are primarily female entrepreneurs, so you all have that in common. But also, whether you personally have gone through fertility issues or, you know, somebody who has or does or is or any of those past, present or future, it’s good to have people in your corner and especially people who you can trust, who you feel a connection to. And that’s why I want to have Abbe here today. So warm welcome. Thank you for being here.

Thank you, I’m so happy to be here. And we met actually on Instagram because I heard you on the Kelly Roach Show. And I would be totally honest, I listen to her all the time. She has like multiple episodes a week. I’ve never, like, immediately reached out to one of her guests. But I just loved you. You like me, like you we’ve in a dichotomy kind of like you have the business and you have the woohoo. And I most people don’t know that about me, but I also have the wooo! I think people for you, like see the wooo right away, right? They show spirituality and for me, they see more of the business person first. But beneath it all, I do have a very deep connection to spirituality and will sell. I was like, I must reach out to her like she and I, there’s just so much in common. And we just clicked right away and I’m so happy to be here and support each other’s business because I think what you do is just phenomenal.

Thank you. And another great recommendation that Abbe gave me was the Entrepreneurs League, which really all in the I’ll link it in the show notes if you’re interested in a networking group with female CEOs, I mean, so far so good. I’ve made some wonderful connections and I really just so appreciate that, that referral so.

That it works. Yeah.
So let’s dove in because you know, Abbe, you had a podcast as well. You’ve since sold it and you know, you’ve grown your business, you’re doing primarily coaching. And so let’s just kind of roll back a little bit in time, you know, which came first? Did you start your journey as an entrepreneur and you are wanting to get pregnant? Like, tell us a little bit about your backstory.

I’m one of those people that’s kind of always had an entrepreneurial spirit. And third grade I had like I lived in Manhattan, New York City, and I had like a, it was called chat because unlimited like tchotchke is, is a Yiddish word for like junk, basically. And I just, like, sold stuff on the street. Like, I just I’ve I’ve always babysat, so I’ve always loved the idea of monetizing for good, whatever the case may be. So my background, honestly, I’m a behavioral science. I have my bachelors is in behavioral science. So somewhat related to the mental health fertility space. But I really got a degree to get a degree and then I always wanted to pursue acting. And so I did go to grad school for acting. And even within the acting realm, there’s so much entrepreneurial business stuff that has to happen that many creatives are not good at. And I was always very good at that.

The marketing, that keeping in touch with people, the relationship building. And so I feel like every facet of my life I found a way to make it entrepreneurial. Of course, I waited tables like many actors do, which I loved. And to this day, like if I if it weren’t so physically taxing, I would still do. Because what it taught me was there’s always ways to make more money, right? You can always pick up a shift. You can always cover for someone. You can always work a double. And I think there was something I really wanted. I would just have a way, right, a way to just hustle a little bit more and make extra money. Yeah. And I think that I feel like everyone in life should wait tables or work in some kind of customer service or commission based business to get that understanding, because I really do. So many people are married to the idea that like you work the 9 to 5 and you make a set amount of money and that’s it. So what can you do within that amount of money? I just always feel like there’s always a way to make more. Yes. So all of that sort of informed my entrepreneurial spirit. And then when it came time to get pregnant and we weren’t getting pregnant, that took precedence over everything. I was so miserable and so unhappy and so depressed and so just surprised. I just kept feeling like, how is this my story? I, I don’t understand. I did everything right. I took care of my body. I married a great guy, and. So whatever else was going on in my life took second fiddle. It was like, you know, sometimes trying to get pregnant is like a full time job. And that’s I would imagine.

Yeah. And that’s what I’ve seen in my girlfriends who’ve gone through various ways of, you know, trying to get pregnant. It is a full time job. And not to mention, if you go the route of IVF and all the doctor’s appointments and the injections and the pills and like it is so taxing.

It’s so taxing and it’s so freaking expensive, right? It’s like.
Yeah.
So it’s like I didn’t have the stamina or desire to work in any way, but also I needed to find a way to pay for fertility treatments. It was just it was brutal. Yes. And so we went through it for many years, some without medical help. And then once we got on the medical bandwagon really far into it, a crazy amount of time to do it like we did for eyes for a retrievals and transfers. So total like 16 depending on how you look at it.

Wow.
I know. And again, even when I say it, I’m like I just can’t believe that was my story. And just spoiler alert, we did end up on the other side with twins, but we were told it would probably never happen for us biologically. So they are really miracles.

Okay. Hold on, please. Okay.

Rewind

When someone when a medical professional tells you it’s probably not going to happen. What does that feel like?
Just know. Just know. I was just like, no, that’s not. That’s not our story. It’s just not our story. And I know that sounds so crazy and like. Faith does not work for everyone. But I knew in my gut we were going to have biological children. I didn’t know for sure that I would carry them. But even based on my medical look, what was going on in our in our particular journey, we were making embryos. So that wasn’t the issue for us. And I was like, if we are making embryos, we are having a biological child. I don’t care what you say to me like we are doing this and I love my fertility doctor to say that I had a few, but the one that I ended up with. I mean, she literally looked at us and was like, you know, if you want to do this again, we can. But I don’t really know why you’re doing it again.

Wow.

And I was like, okay. Like, by this point, we had started what is now the podcast. We weren’t sure what it was going to be at the time. We were just so sick of what everyone in our life was saying to us. You know, just relax. Go on vacation. You can’t be 15 rounds into a medical treatment and then, like, go on vacation and get pregnant. Sure. Does it happen to some people? Yes, like lucky them. But that was not what was going to happen for us.

What were some of the things that like were very like particularly triggering? Ah, like angry. Like so people know what not to say because I feel like there’s a large volume of books that need to be dedicated for like stuff don’t ever say to people trying to get pregnant right now.

And if you’re ever, like, on the fence, should I or should I don’t, or reach out to me first and be like, is this okay? So one of the first things I remember, like after my first round of IVF, one of my husband’s friends was like, you know, once we started trying, every other day it happens. And I’m like, okay, buddy, do you understand? We’re doing, like, medication every day. Like, every other day is not going to do it for us. So really, in general, that goes to like don’t make suggestions for people. Just don’t just don’t make suggestions, just be a safe space to listen. Right. And I always say, like, honesty is the best policy. So if you don’t know the right thing to say, then you say, I truly don’t know the right thing to say. I just want to be here for you.

Yeah, that goes miles.
So much. I think people are quick to it’s like the awkward silence, like.
Yes,.
I don’t. And so they fill the space with a suggestion because it’s like a knee jerk reaction, like, oh, I’ve hurt my elbow. Oh, you hurt your elbow. Have you tried icing it? You know, did you try wrapping it or have you looked at it with a doctor? Like, we know like three things basically to give anybody suggestions with. But if it’s outside that realm, it’s like, I don’t know. So really erring on the side of just holding space for people is really the most important, impactful thing that you can do.

Exactly. And that’s really and don’t like saying nothing is also not great. Right. So I think a lot of people felt they were doing the better thing by saying nothing. But again, I go back to like, let’s go to the truth, which is, you know, last time we talked, which was six months ago, you are going through IVF. I see you’re not pregnant or I see like I don’t know the right thing to say, but that must be really hard. And I’m here for you, you know, just acknowledge it, you know?

Right. Or did you notice that people like distance because they didn’t know the right thing to say? So they’re like, this is awkward. I’m just going to, like, put my head into a hole and step away.

They, like, disappeared from our life because they didn’t know what to do or say. And they were having babies and they knew we were trying at the same time that they weren’t. So they would literally just disappear. And like that is really what the catalyst was for our podcast, because we couldn’t go after these people and say, Let me tell you how you’ve been shitty, you know what I mean? But we needed a place to talk about it. And so someone was like, Just grab a recorder. I don’t know if it’s going to be a podcast, but just sort of talk about it. And we did and it became like our sort of de facto therapist. We would talk at night about the things that really hurt us during the day. We would record phone calls from our nurses and our doctors and we didn’t know what it was going to be. We just it felt like an imaginary friend that was in it with us, you know?

Yes.
And so, lo and behold, it did gain some attention, just the raw footage. We were very lucky. We were connected to a wonderful podcast company called Star Burns Audio, and they had nothing in the space and nothing in the realm. And they just loved the idea. And and so they were like, we want to produce this for you as an actual podcast. And so they did, and that’s how it all started. And at that point, we had just been told that it probably wasn’t going to happen for us ever. Wow. And so we were like, we need a place to talk about the grief that one carries for life when your family doesn’t turn out the way that you’ve thought that it would. That was really how it all started.

Yeah. And so it was both you and your husband the entire time you had the podcast. And it’s almost like it kind of reminds me of journaling, but you’re kind of like co like writers, but you’re, you’re, it’s like an audio journal essentially of documenting your process and everything that you experienced.

Exactly what it was.
And so once that podcast company kind of picked you up, both you and your husband were told this news like it’s not going to happen for you. Was there any part of you that was like, what, we should just not sign with this company?

I mean, no, almost more drove us to want to talk about it more because I didn’t ever hear people talking about what it feels like to process that grief on a daily basis. And by the way, this was like before podcasts were as much of a thing as they are now, right? I love and also specifically the art. There are now a lot of infertility and fertility podcasts out there.

Totally.

And ours was one of the first, which I love. And ours is not about like interviewing people about their stories. It is literally our actual story in real-time.

Wow. So very unique. Very like, just so raw, so authentic and super.

Yeah. And so. Yeah, like, that really fueled our fire more to do the podcast. And then along the way, we did kind of our Hail Mary rounds of IVF and we got pregnant with multiples.

Wow.

And even our podcast producers were like, are you serious? Are you serious? Are you serious? Like, they could not. They’d been through this journey with us.

Yes.

And so then our pregnancy, of course, wasn’t easy because God forbid it ever is. And we ended up having to do a termination for medical reasons and all of these things that really I feel, especially now, given the state of our political country, need a space to be talked about and.

Totally.

Giving a human face. So we talked about all of that and it’s all out there. And like that podcast company had a relationship with Audible and Amazon and then Audible and Amazon decided they wanted to buy the exclusive rights to the podcast. So that’s where we really that’s where we really sold it like we had sold us. And then, yes, our friends helped us really sell it to Audible. So.

Wow. And you know, so when you first start out, you were pregnant, you share the news. I mean, there are so many different areas of thought on when do you share the news? Myself and one of my close girlfriends, we are both of the mindset of like, Listen, if I’m pregnant now and I lose my baby, I like to have the support.

Yeah.

To talk with about that and not to have this like dark secrets that I keep by myself. And I think this only perpetuates why we have so much trouble talking about miscarriages or infertility or even terminating pregnancy is like it’s like this taboo topic. We know nobody talks about it, but yet there are millions of women suffering every day who are going through loss and have no one. They don’t feel safe to be able to share that publicly.

I think, you know, is really, really awkward because our podcast actually didn’t come out until about three weeks before I was due. So I was very pregnant and people were hearing it and didn’t know it was kind of a cliffhanger, so they didn’t know that we’d gotten pregnant. Gotcha. So there was like the coming out publicly and then the coming out to our close family and friends. And honestly, pregnancy after loss and pregnancy after infertility is a whole special kind of trauma. Because I didn’t enjoy my pregnancy at all. I was terrified every single day that the other shoe was going to drop and it wasn’t going to become true, especially with multiples. I was like, okay, well, at least if something happens to one, I’ll probably still have one. I mean, these were the games as I now.

Oh!
I know.
To have those kinds of thoughts on a regular basis for.
For 40 weeks. I mean for 37 weeks.

Yeah.
So yeah, I really I mean, I told my close family and friends, I still waited until after the first trimester, not so much because of loss, but because we knew we had to terminate. So we got actually ended up getting pregnant with three.

Wow.

And they were given like a 90. I was given like a 97% chance of miscarriage if I carried all three because I was about I was almost 40. It was just because IVF, you know, ups your chances of miscarriage. But the fact that three made it to a larger state, like to a big state like a far stage was insane because we had lost so many already.

Yes.

And now this is where a lot of my wooo came in because. You know, I work with somebody here who’s an amazing, intuitive energy person and. I really needed help. First of all, deciding which one to terminate. I know that sounds horrible, but, you know, there’s a whole medical process you go through to figure it out and. You look for any possible sign that there might be one that you know, should be the one. But it was brutal. It was torture having to make that decision. But I have an amazing. Her name is Gillian, and she really helped me. This is so crazy, but I’m just going to go with it. Like throughout my pregnancy, there was a solar spirit that was trying to get through me. And I firmly believe still that that spirit was that third baby. And I was meant to I mean, I still to this day, call that baby, my angel baby, because that baby having to say goodbye to that angel baby brought me to my family that I have now.

Absolutely.
So so yeah. I mean, I didn’t tell people mostly because I wasn’t sure if I should say I’m pregnant with three or two or if only one was going to be able to make it. It was like such.

Oh, my gosh. Like holding your breath and not I can’t even I mean, these are impossible decisions for people to make. I mean, as entrepreneurs were like, do we have a painful or multiple?

What do we do?

Totally, totally.
No other repercussions. And I, you know, in my business, I say to my team all the time, when we have decisions like, listen, this is not no one’s going to die here. We’re just selling meditation. It’s going to be okay. You know, we kick ourselves too seriously sometimes. But these are these are really life and death conversation. And they’re impossible they’re impossible decisions to make.

They are.

And so you do have to dig in deep and you have to go into your heart, into your soul to find those places. But then you go, okay, so something has to happen. And I, I fully got chills when you said, like, your angel baby, you helped to bring your two kids into this world, which hundred percent. I mean, just to be safe again, I get full chill.

When you said you got them, I got them, too. I know, but I truly believe that. And that’s where I’m grateful that I do have some sense of spirituality and energy and universe, because it really helped guide me in this particular moment. So yeah, that is sort of that’s like my story. But from the podcast, that’s how my business was born, so to speak, because people just started reaching out to me all the time. What do I do? Thank you for sharing. Here’s my scenario. Do you know a doctor? All these things. And I was like. There’s such a need for a connector of the process and the emotional piece. It’s not a therapist, right? It’s not available for 50 minutes at 3:00 on Tuesday and maybe has never been through it. But somebody who truly understands what you are going through, it can help shepherd you through the emotional, the physical, the financial of all of it. That is how InCircle is born.

So was InCircle born sort of in parallel to your children being born?

It was born like, you know, I didn’t know. None of us know what motherhood is going to be like, right, until you experienced it. But I truly didn’t know. I kind of assumed since it had taken me so long, I was going to want to be with them like every minute of every second of every day and like never work again. And like a weekend I was like, Oh God, I don’t know if I can be home. I don’t know if I can do this, you know, because again, when you have an entrepreneurial spirit that really just lives inside of you, you can’t do nothing.

So, yes, I will. And I will echo that as well. I’m backing you up right here.

Thank you.

My calling as an entrepreneur, just similar to you, has always been there from a very, very early age. My first business was when I was 22. When I finally did get pregnant, I was at I was, I think 32. And and I remember my my mother had come to visit one time and basically to talk to me about focusing as a stay at home mom and not on this little business and really encouraging me to like put this little business aside. And had I listen to her, I wouldn’t be here today, obviously. However, that year was the year I next my business.

I love it.

And by the end of the year I said to her, I’m taking November off. I’m celebrating this stuff. And she was like, No, no, no, you can’t stop now that you. I said, Listen, Mom.
I if I listened to you seven months ago, I wouldn’t be here today. So thank you for your advice. But until you are an entrepreneur in my shoes, I will not be taking advice from you. Thank you very much. Being like and I believe we can have both why we have been programmed to believe you can either this or that, but you can absolutely be a mother and have a successful business. And there are gobs of women out there who are massive, crazy, successful, and don’t work full time or who work minimally. And their businesses are just kicking by and they’re like, I guess I homeschool my kids now because like, I’m just making so much money. I’m just sitting here like, I should do something,.

Something right. I mean, great. Like, let’s both be then. That was what I think in, you know, I mean, this is so clear to me and most people I think that are probably your listeners because there are a lot of entrepreneurs. Being a mother makes me a better business owner and being a business owner makes me a better mother. No two doubts it, like no question about it. It’s just like all the things that are able to fill our soul can drive all the sides of our life.

So preach.

Yeah. So after. After they were born, I was like, I know without a doubt that I went through this to be able to help other people. Like it was just so clear to me.

Yeah.
And, and, yeah, it took a while to be, you know, I was still a mom of newborn twins and I wasn’t sure how what the model was going to look like. And so it took a while to become what it is now. But I have so much pride in being able to offer this service because I just so many women are entering the fertility space in a business capacity because we all are just like enough, enough of this horrible experience that we went through, like, what can we do to make it better and gain some control because it feels so out of control? Yeah. So that’s the beautiful piece about it.

I love that. And I want to say, you know, when we can kind of go through these dark nights of the soul, we can go through these hardships in our life. And you get through that place and now you’re here and you can look back and go, I knew I had to go through that so that I can help serve other people. And I think what’s really challenging for a lot of people is when we’re in these dark situations and these challenges that are like they’re taking us over to actually have the understanding, like, I might not see it now. I might not know it now. But this is this is happening for a reason. And just trusting that by itself, a lot of times we are in these difficult situations and we need to know what the end of the story is like. What is it all for? Why is it happening to me? But we’re not really gaining the benefits of being in it also if we’re trying to hurry up through it.

So totally agree with that.

I feel like if you are experiencing a dark night of the soul or you are undergoing a big challenge in your business, or you’re having issues with fertility or whatever it is right now that you’re up against and it’s hard and it feels insurmountable. I want you to hear Abbe’s story right now, too, and realize that if she has gone through all of this, which it seems like the people who I know haven’t gone through nearly as much as you also just going to put that out there. If she has gone through this, you can get through it, too. And it’s going to happen for a reason. And I think a lot of the reason why people are drawn to this podcast, too, is because there’s something in them that knows that they’re here to lead. And as leaders, you know, we’re here like bushwhacking. We’re like with a machete through like the jungle. There is no path in front of us. We are just trying to figure it out. And so there are times where there’s like a clearing that we can just be like, Oh yeah, I own this, I know what I’m doing here. But a lot of times we’re just like bushwhacking and we’re just like a few steps ahead of you, and we’re just looking back, going. We put our hand back on. Come on, this way.

Stick with it.

And so that’s it. It’s like, hear our stories and understand that you can also make it through to that next place if you’re feeling stuck or stagnant. There are ways through. And also I want to just reiterate, you reached out for help from multiple people, from all different places. And I feel like I’m seeing this a lot recently, which is like there’s two very distinct type of people, like people who want to just complain about everything bad in their life and then people who want to do something about it.

Yeah.

And you know, I think a lot of people could take the stance that especially again, if people are saying to you, medical professionals say, nope, it’s not going to happen, you could totally take that first road and be like, this is my life is is over. And I’m sure a lot of people feel that way and sort of stick in that place and like. Things just kind of happen around them, around this one issue. I think it shows such a strength of character in you that you could see this as like, this is not going to be my story. And just stepping up and going, I’m going to get through this. And now that you help guide other people through it from a place of walking the walk, that’s so empowering. And so when people reach out to you and they’re going, I don’t even know where to begin, who do I talk to? How do I get help through this? How did you do it? They’re hearing your story. Did you start working with people individually? Did you know that you wanted to do groups of people like and then like next, next like the carjack, like? Well, to get into that. But how did they kind of start to develop for you?

So I truly when I launched the business, I had a business partner we have since divorced amicably ish, but it just wasn’t it wasn’t a fit. But she was amazing at helping set up the business. I’m not an entrepreneur at all, and that’s sort of where you have to really follow your gut on that. You know, biggest tip, I would say entrepreneurially, but we would say you get two for one, right? Because you would we launched right before COVID and we pictured ourselves. We were like, oh, we’ll have like an office that looks like a therapy office and we’ll cry with people and, and, and then we were like, Oh my God, we can’t see anyone. What are we going to do? Let’s pivot. And so we started on Zoom. We started very slowly, and now we actually started by volunteering for an organization that pairs like Peer Mentors for fertility.
Wow.

Just to get the experience and to get some testimonials and to see could we really actually do this?

Yeah. And we did it one on one. Like, you know, I took a person and she would take a person or we were like, as we launch our business less and move it to zoom, let’s try to on one. And so that’s how it kind of started the two-on-one model that you get to coach is one patient and her story was very different than mine, so we felt like we had a lot of bases covered and then it just became like, well, eventually we’re probably going to do one on one because we don’t. We have a system now and we see what we’re doing. And, you know, we had. You could work with us for a year or six months or four months or three months or an hour. And it was like, No, that’s all too much. Let’s have one signature package. And for me, the signature package we were finding, even with four months, it wasn’t enough. And one of my strengths is relationship building. Like, I want to know that you’re committing to six months of going through this with me and I’m committing to six months of going through this with you. I really take my clients to heart. I want them to take me to heart. I want them to feel comfortable to reach out. And unfortunately, in the grand scheme of infertility, six months isn’t even that long. Sometimes you think, you know, this was a problem with the year package. Nobody wanted to be thinking they were going to be going through infertility still in a year, whereas many of us are. And so six months felt like a nice, reasonable amount of time where we can make a meaningful relationship together and still navigate one to 2, maybe three courses of treatment and see what’s happening. And the way that I say it is like we all know about the pregnancy glow. I like to give the fertility glow. And glow is for G is for a game control L for learn what works O is for ovary love and W is for when. So those are sort of the place we began in control is the number one stop, like making a plan together and not feeling like this is all happening to us and what are we going to do? And like we’re at the helm of whatever our doctor says. But no, like what can we do to feel in control of the journey and then finding the right team of people, doctors, acupuncture, energy, people, whatever works individually for a specific client and like making the plan together.

Wow.

That is really and I’m I’m so happy with the six month package. I love getting to know my people. Many of them come on for another six months. I wish they didn’t have to, but some of them do. Yeah. And many of them come on for six months, even after getting pregnant, because like I said, there’s no kind of trauma like pregnancy after infertility. And they want to just know that I’m still available to walk them through that.

Yes. That and that fourth trimester. I mean the of them. I mean I mean, that can go that mean I’m not trying to remarket your business here, but even what you said is like statistically speaking, most people are going to be in it for a year, even though we don’t think we want to. And, you know, understanding that there is so much that can go into these containers is six months containers together, even beyond trying to have a baby. After you’ve had a baby, there’s still there’s work to do there.

Right. Right.

And so much.

The feelings of motherhood after infertility, like you feel like you’re supposed to be so grateful for every little thing, but like, getting no sleep still makes you miserable. And you’re allowed to say that even though you wanted your baby more than anything in the world, right?

Totally.

So it’s really like a lot of mind games that happen.

Oh, yeah. And I mean, I think we all suffer from some range of postpartum depression. I think there’s a wide spectrum. I know for me, both of my kids didn’t really sleep for the first year. And I mean, your brain just doesn’t work on all cylinders, period. I remember I used to take pictures of my newborns and be like, I think people take pictures of babies to really realize and remember how cute they are when, like, they’re literally draining every ounce of life from being like.

Exactly.
Like. I have friends who are, like, obsessed with babies, and they go on to having a home health, like, you know, babysitting. And I’m like, please, please now, like, quite cute babies. I’m like, Oh, that’s good for you.

Yeah. Yeah. I always say, like, everyone’s children suck except my, you know, that’s like and I and I didn’t know that I was going to feel that way, you know, I thought I was just going to want to like, I’m really managing that piece of it too. When you overcome infertility if.

You just.
The puzzle yeah.
Huge. And again it’s like this this gray area that doesn’t really come up to the surface and get talked about and looked at.

And that is really like I am all about talking about all of it. Like I’m such an open book. I think it’s so important. I don’t expect everybody to be an open book, but I like to take advantage of the fact that I am because I figure it’s grounded in reality. This is just the reality. And what I’ve learned mostly from doing the podcast is that every so many people are like, That is exactly how my husband and I fight. Thank you for it. Like, I thought we were just even more horrible people than most. And like, I see now that that’s normal to fight that way. And it doesn’t mean we don’t love each other or I wanted to murder my doctor when they said that to me too. So thank you for just saying that because I felt so validated. And that is really what sharing our stories is about, right? Like.

Yes

Validating each other so that we know we’re not alone in this and that nothing’s wrong with us.

Absolutely. You know, it’s interesting, I yesterday I actually had my annual checkup at my OB. I go, I see and I see a midwife and I see who I had. That’s where I went for my the birth of my children and that the facility is being shut down. It’s part of a hospital. And they’re they’ve been petitioning. It’s actually being shut down. And when I went there yesterday, you know, I was angry because there is no other alternative, you know, a medical adjacent kind of facilities in the area with midwives with this kind of experience. And so they’re like being dispersed into other places for women. And, you know, it’s.

Surprising because not used to have great reproductive health benefits and like seems really proud. You know what I mean? I’m so surprised.

It’s it’s shocking. And, you know, the midwife who I spoke to, she’s been doing this for a hundred years, basically, and even just the level of love and care that she gave me doing breast exam and pelvic exam. And we were talking about, you know, what to look for when you do a breast exam. And I kind of just threw in, you know, after nursing my kids for so long, my breasts just didn’t look like they used to. And, you know, I did consider implants. And she stopped me right there and she took my hand and put it on my belly. And she looked me in the eyes and she said, Just remember, this body brought in life. This body is wonderful.

And love, this body, you know. And it’s so it’s like when you get that level of care, you can’t possibly compare it to being in like a sterile environment. And then when you’re in those maybe harsher, sterile environments with doctors and you think that that’s like the norm and you can’t have a person like you who you can be like, actually, maybe we could advocate for you a little bit, or maybe we need to find a different doctor or find a place that is a little bit more in line with your values. You know, I just realize how sacred that place has been for me all these years and how it never felt like things were being pushed on me. It just felt so warm and loving and welcoming. And I would wish that for every woman going and going through any anything.

Right. And it’s exactly what you say. Like, we don’t know what we don’t know. So when we go to a doctor that maybe doesn’t treat us in a safe way, we leave feeling like, Ooh, that was weird. But I guess that’s how it goes. That’s how it is. Yeah, I would, you know, any different or any better.

Right.

And that’s why. That’s why we need to tell these stories.

Correct.

To know, what’s better.

Yes, we need to tell these stories. We need people who are like you or groups of women who can get together and gather and speak these things out loud and understand. I mean, part of this conditioning has been passed down from our parents and from our grandparents. I mean, I have a next-door neighbor. She’s 81 years old. And after she had her third baby, they put a heat lamp on her vagina. They put a heat lamp on her. And she had up getting burns on her skin, on her labia.

Oh, my God.
Right. It’s like our.

What was the reason that they did that?

I. She can’t even articulate it. So even now, right now, she just goes with it because you’re like, Oh, I guess this is what I’m supposed to do.
Right. Or like, they took her kids and she wasn’t supposed to breastfeed them. Like she was like a bad mother because she was breastfeeding at that time. It was like a taboo thing. So it’s like.

This wasn’t that long ago.

I mean, this woman is literally living and breathing next door and telling me these stories. And so, again, having people that we can talk to and who can help share these stories and hold space in this way is so important. So. So you work with people one on one. Do you have group programs or sort of how does that work?

I do some group coaching, like a support group coaching really, but I do that for other organizations like Resolve, which is the National Infertility Awareness Association. There’s an amazing group called Fertility Rally that does a bunch of different support groups, so I don’t personally do a group coaching, although it is very much on my radar to potentially develop one. You know, it’s hard because some people don’t want to go through it with someone else. And, you know, my fear of a group coaching is like, let’s say I take five women together and like to get pregnant and three don’t. And what happens?

Right.

It’s just like a little tricky. So. Yeah, but I am working. You know what’s amazing is that so many companies are starting to bring fertility benefits into their workplace, which I think is so crucial. Yeah, but it’s almost reactive, like a Band-Aid on a problem. And they’re not. The people get the benefits, but still know how to use them well.

Right.

So what I’m doing is like trying to approach companies is like, let me help you help these women so that you’re not just like slapping an ad corporate insurance plan on them, but they understand what’s happening.

Yes.

What to choose. And so in that capacity, I’d like to work in groups. But, you know, this is like anything. It’s a long road. So that’s what I’m working on right now. If anybody has any corporate connections that they want to put me through to, please send them my way.

Yeah, I love that.
Yeah. So I for now, just feel like because also this is the thing with infertility. With six months, you might need me every day for three weeks and then not then we’re in a waiting period for two and a half months. So that’s why I also I do a longer-term plan because the ride is a total uneven roller coaster. So you might not need me all the time.

Right. Which makes sense. And I love that too. About your model of really giving people that flexibility and realizing like, you don’t need people to need you to be there all the time on time. Right. But then I love. So I’m going to talk about your card deck. So this is that invitation of, you know, if you’re not quite at that stage or even people who are working with you, having this deck is so beautiful. So you have empowering messages on each of the cards are like a rainbow in color for people who are watching the video.

You know, can send you some. I should have sent you some. I’m going to you some after this.

Thank you.

They’re done. By this way, you’ll have them for someone else who might need them.

And you know, we did talk about doing the possible giveaway to.

Yes

Why don’t we do it. Yes, let’s do that.

Yes. So I’ll give to I’ll give two decks away, 2 decks away.

Thank you. Thank you. So we’ll well have a giveaway for podcast listeners will share it on Instagram and just to get people excited about it and to see. So I love the parentheses around in for charity. Oh, God.

Like deciding internally that you might be infertile is a big decision. So if you don’t like it, where’s my finger? You don’t like it? Is there fertility cards of affirmation? And if you understand that you might be going through infertility already, then they’re infertility. For me?

Yes. Or in your fertility. Like, I think it could have made for many things. Yeah, I loved it.

So, yeah, these were born out of I got a deck of cards as a gift after I had babies already, and I was like, Oh, my God, I wish I had had these during my infertility journey. Wait a second. And so I was like, Oh, my God, I’m going to look for infertility cards of affirmation, of which there are none. And so I was like, We have to make them. And the artist, like anyone on video, can see the rainbow-like you were describing, and you’ll see it on Instagram. So the artist is amazing. Her name is Jamie Britcher and she is the glitter enthusiast on Instagram and she went through her own insane fertility journey and decided to gain control over her journey. She was going to use art with IVF needles, so she takes sterile IVF needles and makes these incredible like, here’s what each card looks like, these incredible complications. Cause, I mean, she uses, like, blow dryers and alcohol and all she’s all using it with IVF needles. And so she did the artwork. It was like such an obvious match for me. I was like, I have to call Jamie about this.

I don’t know. Is there another artist that we better match for you?

I don’t think so. So, like, here’s one that I just picked randomly. I can speak up when other suggestions or advice cause me stress and pain like we were just talking about.

Yes

I can. So this is affirming. I can speak up when other suggestions or advice caused me stress and pain. And you can see this one happens to be green. They’re all different colors, beautiful. And it’s just because again, you write someone says like, oh, try every other day or just relax on vacation and you’re inside. It’s like so raging, angry. So then you check your card and maybe the next day you say, you know, there was something you said the other day, and I just want to let you know, maybe that wasn’t the case, whatever it might be. So these are very specific to the fertility journey really.

I love them. And I was going to ask you to pull a card

So I’m glad that you did.

And I still use them now, even though I’m on the other side. But I find that very helpful in everyday life.

I mean, that messages is perfect for.

No matter what.

Yeah

Totally. I think honestly, people are reaching out to me all the time, like mothers and sisters and best friends that were like, you know, my best friend’s IVF just failed. I don’t know what to do. Do I get flowers or does that seem like it’s a funeral? Do I say nothing? And so when you go on our site and look at the cards, I even give examples of things you can say that include things like. You know, I saw these cards and they made me think of you. I never know the right thing to say, but I hope that they provide support in your journey or whatever, in my being, in little examples of things that you can say because there aren’t perfect gifts out there for this kind of grief and loss. And now I feel like there are going away.

And you know what? You just made me see greeting cards as well.

Yes. And now Jamie has been working on as well.

Yeah. I mean, those would be beautiful greeting cards that people could buy from you. And, you know, it’s not that like that card could be the message. An insider could say one of the beautiful things that you just said.

Of totally, you know, people that idea.

You heard it here first on the Aligned & Unstoppable podcast, you get full.

Credit. Full credit.

I don’t mean I don’t need it but I mean that’s just it is like we all are searching for those pieces that can say the things that we wish we could say and don’t want to give people at all. Like, that is so wonderful. Abbe thank you for being a guest and thank you for sharing your story. I think that the listeners are going to hear so much hope in your story and also see, I mean, even when you talked about your business model of offering a gazillion things and then now narrowing it down like let’s have a signature program. And actually, this is how I serve at my highest level. I mean, this is stuff I talk about all the time. And it is so congruent with the messages that I share here. So I think if people are hearing you say it, it’s you, it’s not me, say it is. You see, I.

Totally know we didn’t talk ahead. Of time about this, I promise.

But that’s also part of the journey is like we have to eat a little humble pie. We volunteer, we try this, we try that, we throw spaghetti against the wall and then we go home. This is it. Like we get we have to get to that piece, but we can’t just I think people want to fast forward and just get to the place where they have the thing that sells to everybody. But like, what’s fun is that you’re not going to build your audience and build your message. You don’t understand who you are. If you just start with, I just offer this one thing and I, you know, you’re not even confident in it at that point. I know.

And I think one of the important things that I do say in a different way is that nothing is set in stone. So if you try it, if it doesn’t work for you, then you just can change it. It’s not right. Like, that was hard for me because I’m very like, plan must be in place now. This is the plan. I can’t change that. I just put it in place. But if it’s not serving you or your people, then it’s not working. So to change it, you know

Powerful.

All right.

I adore you!

The feeling is mutual, Abbe. So everybody can find you. You’re InCircle Fertility, on Instagram.

InCircle Fertility and Abbe Feeder. You can find either one and cross-find me on both and I love my DMS, so feel free to reach out. You can go to my website if you want a 30-minute connection call to see if maybe you want to work together we’re a fit. Please reach out for that. And we’re going to do two, two car giveaways, which I’m super excited about.

So cool. But it’s like, this is the podcast that just keeps on giving.

I love it.

So good. All right. Listen, thank you so much. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please take a screenshot and tag me in Abbe in your stories. You know, we both love DM. She just said this is the best way to give back to us. To say thank you, to say what was your AHA or that something really helped you. Or if Abbe said Oh, this particular phrase and then you use it on your friend and you’re like, Oh my gosh, this is exactly what I needed to say. Thank you for those words. Connection is everything, and we are both totally all about it. You can always leave a positive review on iTunes and give us both a shout-out on there. Thank you for listening and sticking with us and please get yourself in that card giveaway. I want you to win. Those cards are so gorgeous. Thank you for listening. Lots of love, I will see you on next week’s episode.

Action Steps To Align Your Biz:

 

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About Abbe

Abbe Feder is the founder of InCircle Fertility. She is the fertility coach she’d have wanted through her own six-year path to parenthood. She holds the hearts and hands of women and couples struggling to navigate fertility challenges. Abbe can’t guarantee a baby, but she can guarantee to make you feel in control of a completely out-of-control process.

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This is one of my favorite topics – how to align your business to attract your soulmate clients.

The benefit of getting into alignment is to create that state of ease, flow, and reduce your stress – that’s what makes you magnetic!

When you’re in an amazing vibration it attracts people to you like a magnet.

I don’t want you to just take my word for it, I’m sharing 5 easy ways you can get into alignment so that you can experience this soulmate client attraction for yourself.

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  • [0.52] What brings the “Boys to the yard!”
  • [2.20] The first way to get into alignment, this may require some help.
  • [3.51] One that I used to skip but this is a way to do it so you can get into alignment without it being so challenging.
  • [6.04] Being in a community, tips on finding the right ones for you.
  • [7.37] How to get clear and balanced in just minutes a day!
  • [9.15] Clearing the blocks to open up to your potential. Being able to trust your intuition!
  • [11.21] Your higher self is always trying to show you your best potential.
  • [12.00] New habits that are effective to help you get into alignment – for entrepreneurs.
  • [23.12] How each chakra helps you align and what gift it provides you.
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You’re listening to the Aligned and Unstoppable Podcast. This week we get to talk about one of my absolute favorite topics. This is like, Oh, this is the juice. This is the goodies about how to align your business to attract your soulmate clients.

So in this episode, I’m going to talk about five ways that you can get yourself into alignment plus some, you know, maybe some things that don’t work out so well for us that get us there ish, but not all the way there, because truly the benefit of getting into alignment is to create that state of ease of flow, releasing blocks, releasing stress, because from that place you are magnetic.

And that’s what brings other boys to the yard. I hope you got that reference. Anyway, what I meant by that was when you’re in an amazing vibration, it attracts people to you like a magnet.

So before we get into those tips and really how to get you into your highest vibration, I want to share a couple of amazing reviews that were on iTunes. And if you have not yet left a review, I would love, love, love one. You know, I love making these podcast episodes for you, making tons of hours of free content. I mean, 410 episodes is a lot of episodes, and I do it because I love to be of service. And your reviews truly inspire me to keep going. Plus, in your review, if you want to talk about something, you can make a recommendation. I’ll probably do it.

All right.

So the first one says do it. “I often listen and feel like I’m in every episode. She’s talking directly to me. I can listen while I’m at work and register at home. She’s a total gem and although I really enjoy, I am learning so much about myself and trusting me.”

That’s the point. I love it.

The next one says “I highly recommend this podcast is an opportunity for transformation and self-slash business growth. Spiritual Awakening. With the focus on business and profitability, Emily is providing great tips and strategies.I highly recommend”

Whohoo! so thank you. Like you feel that energy. I get so excited reading these reviews and it lets me know that I’m making something that is very positive for you. So it’s great.

So let’s dove right into these five different ways that you can start to get into alignment.

Okay.

So number one, I think we all know it. I just mentioned it, which is to clear yourself. So what would you do if I said, Oh, clear yourself? You probably be like a nude cue the cricket sound. Maybe my podcast producer can add the crickets sound right here. But you would, you would you would go clear myself. I mean, I don’t even know what you mean. Like lights and sage or something. Yes. And and so this is where I feel like a lot of people are not equipped enough to know how to actually clear their energy.

You can light some sage, some Paulo Santo, get some crystals, but you might actually not get all of the gunk out. And I say that with love. This is not a criticism, but I’ve been doing energy healing for 23 years. And I will tell you, people have got some stuff in their systems and it takes an expert to truly know how to get to the root of all that and to clear it out.

The second thing that you can do is, of course, meditate. Now I know what you’re going to start to do again. I roll like I don’t have time to meditate. Truly, I understand that too. And this is where I used to get stuck too because I used to think I needed to spend hours in meditation for it to be beneficial. I didn’t want to change my lifestyle around.

And of course, like some meditations cost money. So like all of those factors were totally working against me. And so I, I kind of just like put it in its own little spot and I was like, Yeah, later next time. And I also thought I had to have like a blank space in my mind. And I think that’s the biggest misconception. Biggest myth is that your mind has to stop being active. I don’t believe that’s true. That’s not the type of work that I’m doing for myself personally. It’s not what I teach for other people.

The third way is to get professional healing. Like I mentioned, the first tip about clearing yourself like you need to invest in a professional healer. If you’re really wanting to get into alignment. I get professional healing. Even though I’ve been doing this work forever, I am not necessarily my own personal healer. Yes, I can clear myself in-depth and I do a great job doing it if I do say so myself. However, I still require assistance from professionals.

The fourth way is to study spirituality, which I’m sure you’re already doing on some level. If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re probably on that spectrum. Some of you know, you’ve you’ve tinkered or you’ve really, you know, committed more of your life to studying spirituality. But, you know, that can take a lot of time. I know for me. I mean, I’ve been reading spiritual books since I was a teenager, honestly used to spend my allowance on buying books on homeopathy and natural healing and meditation and like all kinds of things that, like, really, a teenager has no business buying. But that’s really what my life has been dedicated to.

And so I’ve been professionally healing and doing spiritual stuff for 23 years at this point. And so that’s a lot of time. You know, it’s kind of the bummer about studying spirituality. It’s not like you could just like download all of it. You have to also experience like things that kind of suck, like a dark night of the soul and just like inner child work and soul, so many things.

And the fifth way is to be part of a community of spiritual folks. You know, I’m guessing probably some of you are in Facebook groups, the spiritual people or maybe in community at like a yoga studio. I always love being communicating with people. However, I kind of notice myself not loving being part of some spiritual groups because it was mostly just the spiritual practices and almost like they separated like life and they certainly were not talking about business.

So for me, I love talking about business, I love talking about spirituality. So I like to have a place where I can do both and not feel kind of weird about it. Plus, I’ve noticed some people tend to do like the healer shame thing, like how dare you have a spiritual practice and make money? Like, okay. You know?

So I think that that’s an interesting and interesting thing that I’ve noticed in other spiritual communities, not saying they all do that, but some do. And so I know that these five methodologies, these five things work when done correctly.

So if we can backtrack to think about how to clear yourself, I mentioned you really got to know what you’re doing, but think what would be possible if you were able to align yourself.

Like I said, really in-depth, getting all the systems cleared and aligned and balanced in only minutes a day.

That, my friend, is what is so awesome.

So I actually have created a meditation that does that.

Exactly.

If you’re in the Intuition Month challenge and you did the Ascension experience upgrade, you already know what I’m talking about, friend.

It’s called reboot.

And the members of my Mastery & Ascension membership all have access to this meditation.

So this meditation is literally designed to clear, repair and align your chakras, your aura and every single energy system that honestly you don’t even no need to know about, but that it is programmed to do for you.

It is it does it in minutes a day and you can literally press play and go about your day.

You don’t have to sit and listen to it.

You can listen to it while you’re in the car.

Your kids can listen to it.

You can listen to it while you’re going to sleep or while you’re driving like it’s it is that good that it clears your system without any effort from you.

Isn’t that the coolest?

So now you can start to see, okay, there are ways that could benefit me, that wouldn’t take as much time and energy and effort, and you could get to the root cause of what’s causing the stress, the strain, and ultimately what’s blocking you from attracting your soulmate clients.

You can get to that root because what’s happening right now for all entrepreneurs and all people truly is that we’re under unrelenting stress.

And as entrepreneurs, not only are we seen like the global stress from like, you know, from diseases and economy and like all sorts of catastrophic things that are happening in the world.

But we’re also experiencing it on a little bit of a micro level from ourselves internally, trying to run a business, trying to attract clients, trying to make money.

And what’s going on is that this unrelenting stress, it takes a toll on your energy field.

And just without going into like crazy detail here, what I can tell you is that your seven main chakras are exactly not close to, but exactly in alignment in the exact physiology of your endocrine system.

And so what that means is that when we experience stress in our mind, in our body, it impacts our energy field.

Now, if it’s impacting our energy field, it means that we can have blocks, stagnant energy, stock energy in our energy field, which then blocks us from showing up.

It blocks us from expressing ourselves.

It blocks from receiving money, it blocks from creative ideas.

It blocks us from trusting your intuition.

And so when you can clear these blocks, like I said, reboot literally will clear these blocks for you without effort, you can start to open up to your potential again.

So just imagine trusting your intuition and your instincts are always leading you down the right path.

Imagine being grounded no matter what life throws at you.

Imagine your productivity skyrockets and you feel deeply satisfied at the end of the day.

Imagine you feel inspired to create new opportunities in your business that lead to quantum financial growth.

How would that feel?

And consider what would be possible for you.

And so you know that there’s this inner voice inside of your higher self.

They already know.

They’re like, Yeah, I know, I’ve seen it.

I felt it.

But actually bringing it into reality is what I have difficulty with.

And so your high yourself is literally always trying to show your highest and best potential, but we’re only human.

And so we’re living with these bad habits that don’t serve us.

Habits like stress eating, negative self-talk and not making your own needs a priority.

And so if you keep these old habits, nothing’s going to change.

And so what I want to introduce to you are a couple of new habits that are effective.

They’re nearly effortless, and they’re going to align you to your biggest desires in your life and in your business, and again, with very little effort from you.

And so when we talk about these solutions, and I’m not going to shift from these solutions to get you into alignment and attract your clients, clear yourself is the best.

It’s the best solution.

But again, if you don’t have the right tool like reboot, you’re probably not doing it right.

The second one is meditation.

So I don’t know about you.

I’ve definitely used different meditation apps.

I’ve listened to YouTube and I’ve tried different things.

But again, they’re not for me as an entrepreneur.

And so what I find myself doing is listening to these meditation apps, and I get super relaxed.

But it doesn’t get me any closer to attracting my soul, my clients.

It doesn’t give me any closer to making more money or increasing my revenue.

So what I’d channel through Mastery & Ascension are energy healings.

It’s in the form of a meditation.

And so every single month, I deliver these live energy healings that calm your nervous system.

Right.

So we talk about when we’re under unrelenting stress, it impacts our energy field.

So when these meditations you’re listening to them, they calm your nervous system.

And what that starts to do is open up your energy field.

And every energy healing I channel, I’m clearing that junk out of your energy field to get you into alignment and simultaneously guiding you to receive intuitive insights that directly grow your business.

And so just imagine that you’re in meditation, you’re super relaxed, you’re super open, you’ve cleared the gunk that’s blocking you, and you’re completely open to new ideas, new inspiration.

And I’m not giving you these ideas.

You are personally receiving them from your higher self and from your spirit team.

That is why it’s so empowering, because these are not blank mind.

You got to clear the slate.

No thoughts.

Meditations.

These are meditations that are really helping you to be more productive.

You’re getting insights.

You’re getting your next steps.

You’re getting your next plan.

You’re getting whatever you require at that time to move you forward faster in your business.

And so meditation with that mission, with that centeredness is so important.

And I want to say to is like this taps into that other tip number.

Tip number three was getting professional healing.

So if I am literally clearing your system, helping you relax through meditation and I’m professionally I’ve been doing this for 23 years and clearing your system, you’re getting all three of those best tips in one session.

And the coolest thing is I have meditations and energy healings that are going to hit on so many topics, from clearing abundance wounds to clearing from wanting to be a people pleaser, to raising your rates, to going into the Akashic Records to open up more wealth, attracting so many clients.

Like there’s endless numbers of meditations that are specifically designed for us as entrepreneurs.

And the thing is that you could truly spend thousands of dollars on professional healing.

I know even when I was the broke healer, I would charge $125 a session, which was very low at the time and even still.

But if you think about spending that kind of money every single month or even multiple times a month, you’re going to be spending tens of thousands of dollars.

So if you could be part of the Mastery & Ascension membership, you’re paying a very low monthly rate or yearly rate to have access to, like I said, hundreds of these over 200 guided channeled energy healings that clear your blocks and align you to your highest alignment.

So what about that?

And plus, there’s master classes and extra benefits with bonuses and other workshops.

There’s so much in there.

So you’re saving thousands of dollars, but you’re able to access so much.

The other point that I said I was studying spirituality again, Mastery & Ascension.

There are dozens of mini master classes.

We have other bonuses, including marketing classes and, you know, pitching yourself all kinds of really cool things that are really beneficial to entrepreneurs.

And so I want to just pause here for a moment and just I want you to tap into your higher self, that part of you that knows how important it is for you to feel your best to do your soul’s work in this lifetime.

And that higher self knows that you have to prioritize yourself.

Because if you don’t, not only you’re not going to attract your soulmate clients.

If you don’t prioritize your energy alignment, you’re going to continue doing the same things that keep you sick, stuck and broke.

And that’s how I was to for a very long time.

But you already know something has to change.

And that’s why you’re here.

That’s why you’re here right now.

While you’re finally listening to your intuition’s guidance, maybe you’ve been doing Intuition Month with me, or you just been around the block with me for a little while.

It’s like your prayers are being answered.

But sometimes we do need these reminders.

And it’s none of the things that I’ve shared with you.

are theory, you know, these five tips have to do with ancient wisdom.

And they have helped me to achieve quantum success, quantum growth, personally, professionally.

And they have helped me to assist the same things in hundreds of entrepreneurs and spiritually minded folks just like you.

I am absolutely not some guru, and I don’t have any access to secret resources.

I just have these techniques and I know that they work and I know that they will work for you.

And so you know that there’s that part you want to get your business to be in alignment with your soul, to get that alignment.

You will oftentimes have to sacrifice your time and your money.

And so that’s why Mastery & Ascension is so awesome, is that you don’t have to sacrifice those things.

Like I said, reboot is a meditation that’s going to clear your system within minutes, and you don’t have to stop what you’re doing.

And you have access at four very low rate every single year.

It’s a very low, very reasonable, very affordable rate.

And so you can think about it.

You have a couple of options, which is you can take these tips.

Notice how you feel when you try to do them and see how it goes.

But I really believe, you know, unfortunately, that without my healing tools, without my touch, without my energy healing, it’s going to take you a lot of time.

And I see a lot of people give up.

I’ve seen people join my membership and then go, you know what?

I’ll do it on my own.

And they come back and they go, You know what?

I really tried and I can’t.

And it’s not that I want people to be dependent on me, but what I do is I hold the space and you get the answers for you.

I’m here to hold this space.

And I don’t think that a lot of people are equipped.

Actually, I don’t think anybody is truly equipped the way I am to hold space for the spiritual and for the business growth the way that I do.

So you have the option of trying that on your own, but you could also have instant access to me.

My advanced knowledge, my years of experience deliver directly to you every single month with an amazing supportive community.

Like I mentioned, you know, being part of a community is a really, really big deal.

But again, most people aren’t really into entrepreneurship and spiritual communities, and sometimes they even shame you for talking that way.

And so I don’t want you to get into that same mess that I’ve gotten into, and that’s part of what M&A is all about.

Mastery & Ascension is, I believe, the most supportive community on the Internet.

You know, we have made so many improvements to the membership that are just to be of service to you.

And so one of the things we have created and added is a private podcast.

So every month I channel these energy healings to get you into your highest alignment and attract your soulmate clients.

And you don’t have to log into any portal or have Internet access.

You can literally have them on your favorite podcast app.

It’s right there on your phone and it’s free as a member.

I also shifted from doing my live energy healings through the Facebook group to doing them on Zoom so we could foster that community.

We could see each other face to face, and actually the energy is even more amplified on that platform.

And I also believe, you know, we’re looking at moving off of the Facebook platform entirely with this community.

So if that’s something that’s held you back, just know it’s in the works that we are looking to really raise the vibration and the consciousness of our community.

And we can see there is less of a resonance stain on that Facebook platform.

So we’re opening up to these dramatic shifts.

And I also one of the things I’ve started to create for my members are discounts for all of my events.

I don’t know if you listened to last podcast where I talked about, you know, I have a lot of really fun events coming up.

Some are in-person, some are virtual, some are online trainings.

And all of the Mastery & Ascension members get a significant discount coupon for all of those.

So if you’ve been.

In working with me, I would just say like, hey, you might as well become a member because you’ll save a ton of money from being a member.

You get all these discount code discount coupons.

The final benefit that we just added to Mastery & Ascension is that I’ve been creating the Integrated Energy Alignment Practitioner Certification Program, and so we have a number of practitioners who are literally training under me to be able to do what I do energetically.

Like I said, I’ve been doing this for 23 years, I’ve been studying most of my life and now I’m actually teaching it.

And so these are people who I know, who I love and I trust them.

And I’m allowing members of M&A to receive practice sessions for free or at a very low discounted price with them.

And again, these are trusted people.

There’s not just like random people, but they’re literally learning how to do what I do.

And so that’s another benefit you can receive, like I mentioned, receive professional healing.

This is another way that I’m here to be of service so that you can stay in this alignment.

And so again, when you decrease your stress and you can shine at this bright level, you’re so my clients start to find you irresistible.

Not only that, but you’re able to speak your truth.

So let’s go through the chakras really quickly on how you can attract your so my clients. So crown chakra, you are plugged in to source, to God. You’re going to start getting hits, downloads of things that are new and innovated for you to take action on that you’ve never done before that are going to pull in those new clients where drop down into third eye intuition.

You’re going to start getting those ideas, inspiration.

Then next steps that you have to do those next strategies drop down into throat chakra.

This is about speaking your truth and being visible with your message down into heart chakra.

This is where you give and receive unconditional love with that heart chakra is open and ready to give and receive connection and love.

But it’s also about boundaries.

So you’re no longer going to be over giving in, overextending yourself and people pleasing you’re holding the space of integrity, and your work will amplify through this next alignment.

Then you drop down into your solar plexus.

This is where you trust your will, what you want to put into the world.

You’re going to be able to manifest your desires easier, faster, without effort from you dropping down into your sacral chakra.

This is a creative energy.

This is that womb space, that cauldron to cook up great ideas.

This is how you take that big idea that first came in to you from Crown.

And it’s now coming into the world to be birthed into a new idea, a new program, new service, new price.

And that is what attracts those next level clients, not the ones who are unwilling to pay you and think that you don’t deserve to charge.

But the ones who believe your value and believe your worth and are willing to put whatever it is on the line to work with you financially.

And then we drop down into base chakra about finances, safety, security.

And so you’re going to feel like you’re in full integrity, fully aligned to be of service to people.

And that will heal those wounds of abundance, of lack, of scarcity, of insecurity that get you from point A to point B with the least amount of effort from you that is truly your energetic system and how it works to pull in and attract soulmate clients.

So I could obviously clearly talk about this endlessly for days because this is my passion. I’m sure you can hear it. I’m sure you can feel it, but this is what I’m here to do. And if this feels good for you and this energy feels like, Oh yeah, that’s what I feel like I’ve been needing. But I didn’t even know that this kind of thing existed. Or maybe you heard about Mastery & Ascension, but you know it wasn’t the right time for you.

I will be opening the doors very soon, literally next week. So if you’re not already on the Mastery & Ascension waitlist, you can go over to my website. Now, put yourself on the waitlist. You’ll hear about doors opening first. They’re going to be opened on the 27th for people who are in the Intuition Month, Ascension, upgrade and to the waitlist. Then they will open the next day on September 28th to everybody else. So my doors to Mastery & Ascension will reopen, but only for a few days.

So typically I, I will leave them open for a week, but they’re actually going to close again on October 1st, which is perfect because on October 1st, that’s when I’m going to be doing my next live on Zoom Energy channeling to do that, healing with everybody who has just joined, including the current members and the new members. So when you get in to the doors by October 1st, you’ll be able to experience me live in that format. And so, you know, I want you just to remember, you know, you’re here for a reason.

And I suspect that if you were feeling your absolute best right now and your business was thriving and your clients coming in, that you wouldn’t have just spent this time listening to my podcast. But it’s up to you. So think about it. Are you going to keep treating these symptoms of stress on your own? Trying to look up videos and meditation apps and trying to find healers that are actually qualified in your area?

Or are you going to step into this new paradigm where you can trust that now is your time to make an impact and to serve at your highest alignment and to be at that high vibration so that you can start to attract the clients that you deserve.

And just think about right now, just how much have you already invested in your spiritual well-being? And think about what you’ve already invested in your business. Mastery & Ascension is the only membership in the entire world that helps you grow both spiritually and financially.

And so I want to thank you for being here, for being part of this community, for being part of my podcast community.

If you’re already in Mastery & Ascension, thank you. From the bottom my heart for always inspiring me to do better. To create new ways for us to connect online and connect in person. You know, I truly believe that the next four months, the rest of this year, is going to be dedicated to how we can go deeper with one another. And I believe that Mastery & Ascension is one of those first next steps. And that’s also part of my mission here, is building community.

So if Mastery & Ascension doesn’t feel like the right next step for you right now, that’s totally okay. There are other ways that you can work with me. I’m going to be doing a speaker series called Intuitive Leadership coming up. There’s both in-person and online sign ups for that, but you can also just stick here on the podcast and hang around. You know, you can listen to older episodes. We’ve got, you know, over 400 of them. Get to know me a little bit better. Get to see that I am a person of my word.

And there’s one thing I have to say. My close friend, she’s a business owner. And she said, you know, over all of the years that I have seen your work and followed you and listened to you, you are so consistent and there are so many people out there, especially people who claim to be like spiritual business coaches who are kind of flighty and going from one thing to the other. And you can’t quite keep track of what the hell they’re doing next. And she’s like, You’ve always been focused and so grounded in the same thing. And I love that. It’s like, you are so authentic, you are so deeply connected, and you are the real deal. And so I’m not here to prove that to you.

I know you can listen and connect with me and you’ll hear it and feel it for yourself. You cannot at all fake good energy. You just can’t. And so there is a part of me that you really resonate with. Then lean in. I’m here. I’m not going anywhere. I haven’t gone anywhere. I’ve been doing this work for a long time and this is my life’s passion. This is my life’s mission. This is just an opportunity for me to open the door so that you can receive the benefits of what it’s like to be in my space.

And truly, like I said, Mastery & Ascension isn’t a community or meditation practice that I’m telling you what to do. I’m bringing you back into yourself. And so if you think of life like you’re in this fog and you’re not sure what the next step is, you’re not sure how to attract the clients, you’re not sure what to do next, and you’re kind of afraid to go the wrong direction.

What Mastery & Ascension does is it brings you back to yourself. It brings you back to your own instincts, because when you’re in a fog, you have to rely on your instincts. You can’t rush it. You can’t push it along faster than supposed to. You have to come back into you and not here for you to build this codependent relationship with me. I’m here to remind you of who you are and to create that soul level, intimacy and connection and the trust within yourself. That is what’s going to catapult you into that next quantum growth. That’s what it’s done for me. That’s what it’s done for my close clients that I’ve worked with, and I know it can be possible for you, too. So I’d love for you to join me in whatever feels good.

Whatever resonates again in the podcast, show notes will have links to Mastery & Ascension to go on the waitlist – emilyaaron.com/groups if the if you’re listening to it and this happens to be the last week of September.

Jump on in friend. The water is fine.

I would love to have you here. Thank you so much for listening and thank you for committing to being of service and raising your vibration. Just doing that alone is shifting energy in the whole planet. So thank you so much. Lots of love to you.

If this episode resonated with you, please share it with a friend. Tell somebody you love, especially those bears besties who we could use, all of the good juju that we could get. So share it with a friend. And of course you can always take a screenshot and tag me in your Instagram stories or reach out to me privately on and Instagram. I’d love to hear how you resonate with this episode. We’ll see you in the next one.

Action Steps To Align Your Biz:

 

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People frequently ask me questions about being able to tell the difference between their ego and their intuition.

Not only that, but they want to know how to stop second-guessing their intuition and how to tell if they’re on the wrong path.

I’m so excited to talk about it in this episode of the Aligned and Unstoppable podcast.

Because when you learn to build your “trust muscle,” doors open up to you as you receive that deep level of clarity.

Making decisions gets easier and it gives you more confidence!

If you haven’t signed up for Intuition Month yet, there is still time to get in on this exciting way to grow your intuition muscle in a community of light-minded individuals.

Highlights you won’t want to miss:

  • [1.52] Why I love these challenges and why community events are important for the collective consciousness.
  • [3.05] What you need to know about ego (it isn’t bad!)
  • [5.04] When your ego is freaking out it’s evidence of your growth.
  • [5.37] The three ways that ego shows up.
  • [7.40] When we do things that are new it’s stretching us, it’s creating a new us.
  • [9.13] Intuition, how you can decipher it from your ego.
  • [12.40] The bedrock foundation for increasing your trust in your intuition.
  • [13.13] Your new normal if you want to be more intuitive. You have to be crystal clear!
  • [14.13] Learn what causes the difficulty with trusting your intuition.
  • [16.50] When you trust your intuition, you will always be led to the right next step.

Action Steps To Align Your Biz:

 

It’s not too late to join Intuition Month! Let me share with you the practices and tools that will help you connect to your intuition. You’ll be part of a large community which makes it so much more powerful.

 

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Habits! Have you looked at yours lately?

 It’s good to bring your conscious attention to your daily habits to see if they’re working for you or not.

Because your energy attracts more of that same energy.

So, if you’re doing things that aren’t working for you, you’re attracting more of the same!

It’s like if you have a great workout and you’re feeling really good. That carries through your day too.

I share more about how to focus your attention on your current habits and create new ones that will allow you to be a clear vessel for your intuition.

I’m also going to take you through this step-by-step in Intuition Month. If you haven’t signed up yet, you can do so HERE

Highlights you won’t want to miss:
  • [1.54] The way you do one thing is the way you do everything.
  • [3.09] How “too busy” can get in the way of your goals.
  • [4.16] What to pay attention to first thing in the morning. The way you start your day sets the tone!
  • [5.08] There’s always a choice.
  • [5.57] You need to be clear with your intuition. If your filter is all “gunked up” you can’t trust it.
  • [7.03] Intuition month is creating a bedrock for success.
  • [8.00] What is the challenge? I explain.
  • [9.07] You’ll notice week after week, how much better you will feel. Doors start opening for you!
  • [10.34] Habit stacking to prevent overwhelm and see big results.

Action Steps To Align Your Biz:

 

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I know my listeners, and those of you in my communities, love to talk about intuition. But it hit me that there’s something better than talking about intuition – it’s creating a community for you to experience it in a way that helps you open up your intuition more.

And when we do this work together, it raises the frequency of the collective! How great is that?

Some of you have been with me through an intuition week and some of you are new to me. It will be new for you either way because you’ll have a whole month to create a deeper relationship with your intuition and I can’t wait for you to experience it.

I explain more about what you can expect with this upcoming Intuition Month in this week’s episode.

Highlights you won’t want to miss:
  • [2.08] Why intuition is so important in your business!
  • [4.27] How the idea for “Intuition Month” came to me.
  • [6.26] If your launch drains you, it’s time to tune in and see what works better for you.
  • [7.06] Building a bedrock of success so you can increase your intuition.
  • [8.46] The foundation that opens up your intuition.
  • [10.35] When we do this work together at the same time it raises the frequency of the collective.
  • [12.01] This is not hard, it’s about holding space to do our best.

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